Back in the day, I was involved in a rather successful WoW guild. It was a fun group; we mostly ran instances with one another, but there were occasional raids and other activities. It wasn’t a large group of people. There were maybe two dozen of us altogether, but most of us got along really well.
Let me kiss you with my disproportionate alien man-lips, Shepard.
Apparently, some of my guild mates got along very, very well indeed. One day, much to my surprise, I learned that a couple of our players were now together. By that I mean together, as in romantically linked up. As one of them lived in California, and the other in Ohio, I naturally wondered how that had happened. As it happened, a mutual crush started in-game, then they began chatting exclusively with one another every night after everyone else had logged off. This rapidly evolved into emails, then phone calls, then a couple of trips to visit one another. One thing led to another, and suddenly, they were an item.
To make a long story short, they got engaged, and then married. As far as I know, they’re still together. I’m aware of a number of other similar romances, between normal, healthy, and reasonably mature adults, and many of them seem to have worked out well. Obviously, we’ve all also heard of the crazy stories, too. Occasionally, one player stalks another in real life, and the GMs have to take steps. There are also a number of stories about adults attempting to romance underage players. In a number of newsworthy incidents, these judgment-impaired individuals have attempted to take these romances into the real world. The result of this kind of liaison is rarely a true love connection. In fact, the result is usually prison.
Is this creepy? Oh yes, yes it is.
And all that leads to our question of the day: Have you ever had an MMO romance? Have you ever met someone in game, and developed romantic feelings for him or her? Have you ever taken an online crush offline, into the real world? What was the result? Based on your experience, would you consider a romance if one developed playing SWTOR?
Taking our QoD one step further, what has happened to the in-game romances you’ve known in the past? Did things go well, or did things get weird? Did it somehow affect the game, your online friends, or perhaps your guild? Come on, leave us a comment, and tell us your story. And don’t leave out the juicy details, either. This is an opportunity to let the drama and the gossip fly! 
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I met my wife in Star Wars Galaxies we have now been happily married for 5 years and counting. I like to tell people we met in a galaxy far far away
That’s very cute. Nice one.
For me personally, no. I’m a Star Wars nerd, but I’m really not too much of a gamer, so I think I might have some trouble founding a relationship in a game. You never know though. Any way the wind blows and all.
Marry ME cornbread! it’s your buddy dawn! :p
BROMANCE
XD nah but seriously good luck friend.
What’s up dude! Good to see you again. I’m glad to see you like this site too. It’s one of my favorites
I met my wife through my guild. Originally met in Planetside, but got to know each other better in City of Heroes. In WoW, she was the Main Tank and I was the raid leader and main healer.
My husband and I met 3 years ago in a raiding guild in WoW. At first I wasn’t interested, because being a women you get hit on A LOT playing any online type of game. We were friends right from the start. And it took a while for my feelings to develop toward a romantic inclination. However, being the incredibly amazing guy he is, he patiently waited for me. Our relationship pretty much developed the same way your guildmates’ did. Now my husband and I have been married for 2 years and it’s been an amazing journey so far.
I know a girl who romanced THREE of my officers, and all three times didn’t work out… Kinda a harlot lol…
But i know there was a relationship made in the kin (guild) that is still going on… I had several girls come onto me (actual girls, we used vent) and i had to decline them because i was always in a relationship already.
I love making friends in MMOs tho… most important part to me is the social aspect.
I had some friends i made in WoW that met in WoW and got married, but he was in Scotland and her is Australia. Last i heard they were still together.
I was aware of one relationship that an online femme friend of mine had with another player who lived about three hours away. I guess things weren’t too serious, because this same friend attempted to arrange an ‘intimate’ get-together with my now ex-girlfriend and I one fateful New Year’s Eve. I wish I were joking. I knew things were serious when she sent us a compromising pic of what we could expect with which to ring in the new year… That being said (and having graduated college with a degree in psychology with focus on sex, marriage and attractivity), I think there are some very interesting, compelling and unique dynamics created and sustained in a virtual game space. In my estimation, you can get to know a great deal about a person just from an action as simple as selecting your play role, be it DPS, healer, jack-of-all trades, etc. I first realized this when after reading about the classes in WoW, I immediately gravitated towards the Shaman class because of their great acumen for utility. I liked the idea of being able to be proficient in several areas and the value that skillset could bring to a group. I see that reflected in how I approach my personal life – I am definitely the type of guy who enjoys being educated on a wide variety of topics and hands-on with several disciplines. This is further demonstrated with watching how a player plays their character and the dependency issues created by roles. It would be very natural for certain affinities to develop between, let’s say, a tank and a healer. The tank is only able to be consistently successful due to the timely and heads-up play of the healer and the healer’s role is justified and validated by the existence of the tank. I just proofread what I have so far and realized I am creating the hated forum ‘wall of text’, so we’ll leave it there for now.
My wife and I met on FFXI and we have been married for over 6 years now. And were back on XI now after the disappointment of wow lol. But we plan on playing tor also together.
Met my wife in Everquest and we have been married 11 years now.
I met my ex-gf on aion, it didn’t last long.
I would have met a very nice person on EQ2 if she wasn’t on the other side of the earth.
Some things happen, other don’t, but I don’t see mmo as a dating site.
The closest to having an mmo romance I’ve ever been was back in my WoW days when I developed a silly fangirl crush on Thrall and, later, Kaelthas Sunstrider.
Yes, disturbing. I know.